December 27th, 2011
By Mikaya Heart
The art of manifesting what you want is a very useful ability that anyone can develop. Let’s start with a few things you don’t want to do:
don’t worry about how the thing that you want will manifest. The Universe figures that out. It’s only up to you to seize the opportunities that will present themselves. And don’t worry about making a mistake in deciding what you want — you can always change your mind.
Don’t limit yourself because of what others tell you or because of your past experience. No matter what your past has been like, you have the ability to change your future. If you have had a very unpleasant past, your motivation to change will be very powerful, although you may have to be patient. It’s like stopping a big ship that is going full speed ahead; it has to finish going that last mile. Then it has to turn around, and get up steam to go the other way. It can certainly be done, it just isn’t immediate.
Once you are going in the right direction, everything happens faster.
The art is not to dwell on the fact that the ship hasn’t already changed direction, but to trust that it is going to do so. When you find yourself thinking that nothing has changed yet, then follow up with the thought that the process of change is beginning, and it’s going to feel really good when you get to the point of being able to perceive the changes. Many people sabotage their initial choices by giving up too soon, failing to change the internal pattern of expecting things to be bad.
The first step is to decide how you want your future to unfold. Go to basics. Do you want to be thin, or do you want to be healthier, or do you want to be more attractive to others, or do you want to like your body better? Those are four different things. Do you want more money, or do you want to be happier, and you believe that money will make you so?
Decide what your priority is. Perhaps you just know that you want to live a joyful life. That’s good enough.
The second step is to commit to what you want without reservation. It is often necessary to give something up in order to move on to something new. When you are willing to let go of what is not serving you any more, then it makes room for new and exciting things that will serve you.
Write down what you want. State it as clearly and succinctly as you can, using positive phraseology—no comparatives, no negatives. Write it in an attractive way, because you are going to put it where you see it on a very regular basis, and you want to feel pleased every time you look at it. When you are satisfied with what you have, write: I—(then your full name)—now commit to doing whatever I need to do in order to allow this desire to manifest. Sign and date it. Replace it with an updated version whenever you feel the need.
The third step is to let yourself imagine how great you will feel when you have this thing that you want, without allowing questions or doubts to creep in. Give your imagination free rein. Let yourself be there. Do this for as long as you are able, every day. At first one second may be all you can manage without the doubts coming up. Keep practicing. Let the feeling permeate your body, let yourself become aware of the feeling fully throughout your body. Let yourself shiver with delight, jump with joy. Don’t censor the way your body reflects the joy of having what you want.
The fourth step is to pay attention. As you go about your life, you will begin to notice unusual things presenting themselves. They may appear to be nothing to do with what you want, but don’t ignore them. You may notice things you never saw before, you may find yourself thinking unusual thoughts, or having sensations and feelings that are odd to you.
Practice thinking and doing things that are new and different, knowing that this is all part of the process of change.
Be careful with positive affirmations. Don’t tell yourself “I am a successful writer” when you really don’t believe that, because it will create internal conflict. Say instead, “I have started the process of change in order to become a successful writer.” When you really do believe the process of change has begun, say, “I am becoming a successful writer.” Then it turns into, “Some people consider me a successful writer.” And so on. In this example, you might find yourself re-defining the concept of success as things begin to change. Or you might question what it means to be a successful writer. We often get in touch with the deeper aspects of leading a meaningful life as things start to shift. Let it happen in its own time, don’t get stuck into thinking that this wasn’t what you meant. The universe sometimes knows you better than you know yourself.
The fifth step is to change your habits of thinking, feeling, acting, and reacting. You must learn to see the glass as half full, not half empty. Be patient and gentle with yourself. You may have to correct old habits of negativity many times every day as you learn to be motivated by trust. Most people in our world are motivated by fear, and that fosters the experience of fear. You want to foster the experience of trust. Learn to go through your life appreciating what is good and beautiful.
The above practices may bring up old stuck feelings from the past: fear, sadness, pain, resentment, and lack of self-worth. You can push those feelings away for a while but in the long run they suck a lot of energy, making you tense and stressed. You may need to give yourself some safe space every day to feel difficult feelings, with the intention of letting them pass. If you need help in shifting these emotions, find a good energy worker.
I have one caution: don’t try to change anyone else. It doesn’t work and it will make you very frustrated. Do you want to manifest a relationship with another person? Do you want to be loved? Do things that make you feel loving, so that you develop the experience of giving love as well as receiving it. That cycle of giving and receiving is essential.
It takes courage to make changes, since the unknown is exactly that—unknown and unfamiliar. External influences can be unhelpful. When you feel discouraged, go back to the sensation of desire, because that feeling recharges your system. Perhaps you need some external support.
If you don’t personally know people who will support you, then at least know that you are not alone in doing this work. In this day and age, millions of people are taking the steps to make positive changes in their lives. And we’re all rooting for each other.
Mikaya Heart is a life-coach and award-winning author, writing on subjects as varied as orgasm, lesbianism, and shamanism. www.mikayaheart.org
EmbracingMyJourney L.L.C. was created by Caryn FitzGerald in 2008.
Caryn, known as "The Manifesting Queen" is a motivational columnist, speaker and writer, she has been featured in and published several books, including "Tulips In The Sand" "Fish Sticks, Books and Blue Jeans" “Manifest Success” “Visual Arts Junction Interviews” & “Online Marketing Success Stories..."
Caryn is a domestic violence survivor who has triumphed over a 10-year battle with anorexia and bulimia. She is a wife, mother, healthy-aging-specialist, writer, speaker, blogger, coach and a health food enthusiast Click to connect with Caryn at her website
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