How to Avoid Fighting Over Finances
A huge percentage of couples have fought about money at some point in their relationship. There have been a variety of studies over the year that say money is one of the top reasons that couples argue. It can ruin relationships and even marriages.
Avoiding these financial fights is important and here are some tips that can help you:
Merge your finances only when it makes sense
RESOLVING CONFLICT PEACEFULLY by John Wilder
Fighting comes naturally, peacefully resolving conflict does not. I am sure that you can remember all too well fights that you have had in your own relationship. The problem with fighting is that no one wants to “lose” the fight so we lock into combat that almost always escalates into dysfunction. That dysfunction can be screaming, throwing things, cursing and/or hitting a spouse.
COACHING VERSUS COUNSELING by John Wilder
There is a dirty little secret in the marriage counseling industry. 75% of all couples who go to marriage counseling end up being divorced. There is a quiet revolution taking place in this country where some forward thinking counselors are abandoning the traditional counseling methods and adopting a “coaching” style. A couple of well known counselors have made the transition like Michelle Weiner Davis, author of: DIVORCE BUSTING and Dr. Willard Harley, author of HIS NEEDS HER NEEDS.
