Embracing My Journey ~ Living with passion & purpose!

I’m broke.

I’m poor.

I’m fat.

I’m ugly.

I’ll never amount to anything.

I can’t remember names.

No one will like me.

Guess what?  You’re right!  If this is what you find yourself saying to yourself on a daily basis I can guarantee you your life is not one you enjoy, that you’re not surrounded by positive, fun-loving people and your bankbook is probably close to zero or even worse…in the red!

Now there is no magic potion that can turn your life around in a minute, an hour or even a day, but there is a trick to doing so for those really interested in making a change.  If you use this not-so-secret trick on a daily basis, you will find your life’s direction slowing changing.  Like a boat caught in rough waters where the crew starts to work together to row against the current and slowly but surely finds the boat changing direction until it’s out of the rough waters and on to smooth sailing.

Simply put it’s our individual self-talk.  Many don’t realize that they grew up within a negative environment where their parents told them they were no good, fat, ugly, stupid or many other choice words that people use to put others down so they can feel better about themselves. This is all they ever knew, so to them it seemed normal. As time passes, people start to become these negative comments, ingraining these characteristics into their psyche and therefore creating a really nasty reality in which to live.

Self-talk is one of the best ways to get yourself out of a rut and into positive forward motion quickly and effectively.  If you had told me that while I was in my 20′s, I probably would not have believed you, however looking back it is easy for me to see it was my negative self-talk that got me into the situations I was in during my 20′s so realistically if I had simply changed the way I thought I could have changed my life much sooner, yet when one is in the midst of things, nothing is obvious.  It would be almost a decade before I turned my thoughts around and learned first hand how beautiful life can be when viewed through clear colored glasses.

Waking up each day and saying to yourself “I am amazing!” “I am healthy!” “I am loved!” “I have a lot of friends who love and care about me!” “I’m wealthy!” and other positive thoughts along these lines will lead you, day by day, into a place of peacefulness, love and abundance where you are surrounded by like-minded individuals who wouldn’t ever think to say something negative to themselves or someone else.

Now, I’m not saying that by telling yourself that you are wealthy every day during your positive self-talk, that your bank accounts are going to grow by leaps and bounds or if you tell yourself that you are healthy that you’ll wake up one day and the illness that has plagued you for years will be gone…that’s not exactly how it works. However, if you are talking the talk, and walking the walk by engaging in healthy activities and revenue generating actions, you will indeed see your health improve and your bank accounts grow as well as friendships with those who are taking action in the same manner, begin to blossom.

I look back over the past 20 years and can now see a pattern of how my friends “matched” the period I was experiencing in my life at the time.  When I enjoyed hitting the beach all weekend and getting a dark tan (not so great for the body I now know) I had friends who liked to do the same.  When my life included having a couple of drinks at happy hour, my circle of friends changed and I found myself surrounded by those who enjoyed the same activities.  During my time as a grad student the library was my main hang-out and guess what?  The people I hung around with had the same habit as most were students as well.

Life is funny in that way, we tend to find ourselves unknowingly surrounded by like-minded individuals.  The problem comes in when we are negative of mind and may not realize it…we just moan, gossip and complain with the rest of the gang!

Here is my challenge for you….if you feel you are caught in a web of negativity, take a few minutes to write down some of your positive features and if you don’t think you have any, be creative and write down the ones you’d like to have.  Dream about the positive things you’d like others to mention when they talk about you and write those down.  For example:  “Jane is so funny, I just love being around her” could translate into positive self-talk as: “I make people smile and laugh and they like being around me!”  Be creative, be daring and know that nothing is off limits as this is YOUR dream life that you are creating.  You deserve only the best and it’s now time to step forward into whatever world you desire.  Goals and dreams are beautiful things and we are all entitled to having them.  There is no such thing as not being deserving of having ones dream life.  We only get to play this game of life once…and it’s up to you to decide how you’d like to play…safe and secure or daring and adventurous…the choice is yours.  Whatever you choose, please know that what you desire is always within your heart and the ability to create your desire is within your mind.

May you be blessed with happiness and abundance all the days of your life!

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