October 13th, 2009
As a parent with an outgoing child, it’s common for us to have a house full of children on any given afternoon and I’ve found that in watching the kids interact with each other as well as their behaviors within the games they play, it’s pretty easy to determine what the child’s parents are like.
Watch a group of teens walk thru the mall and it’s easy to see a common theme. They may all wear similar styles of clothing or hair styles, even their phones tend to look alike.
Why is this? Because most people tend to blend into the groups they feel most comfortable with and belong to.
Ever wonder why you may not be achieving the goals you are setting for yourself? Why your friends don’t seem supportive of your endeavors? Why your “best friend” says ” why are you studying instead of coming to the movies with me?” The answer is simple….it’s all about your circle.
Who do you surround yourself with on a daily basis? Who is your support system? Are those around you driven to achieve the goals they have set for themselves?
I spent this past weekend at a writers workshop lead by David Farland (best selling novelist and then some!) in Dallas. Now please know I am not a morning person and therefore the thought of getting up and on the road by 7:30 am was not an appealing one, yet I was drawn to this event. A month ago I could not have told you who David Farland was, let alone entertain the idea of a two day workshop with him. And yet, somehow the event was brought to my attention and within a few days of the event I was registered and ready to go.
What I received from this event was far beyond the investment I made to attend. To begin with David Farland shared an incredible amount of practical knowledge and resources with us. Those little things that assist a writer in transitioning from good to great and beyond…that’s what he shared…and it was incredible. If you are a writer, I strongly suggest you look him up and make a connection.
Yet, what was even more incredible (if that is possible) than the workshop materials themselves was the fellowship received from the other writers who attended. For me, there is nothing more exciting than the feeling I receive when I am surrounded by others who truly understand first hand the life of a writer. The days when there seems to be so much to write about and not enough time to write it all or when agents and publishers don’t seem to be on the same page, when rejection letters arrive more often than acceptance letters or when it feels like that amazing story is just sitting on the tips of your fingers and you cannot get to the paper fast enough to catch the words racing thru my mind. The life of a writer is complex and yet, no different than other career paths people take while following their dreams and living their passions.
And so, I return to starting point …. my circle.
I find my life flows much more smoothly when I am surrounded by those who are like minded, goal oriented and supportive of each other. When I attend writers conferences or workshops, or a weekly meeting with others in the industry. I take the time to learn about them as they learn about me. We support each other, share resources and give that much needed “go for it!” when the time is right.
I encourage you to take a moment and look at your circle. Who are those closest to you and are they supportive, loving and exciting to be around? Are you giving yourself the best source of support that you possibly can? You deserve only the best and by investing in yourself you’ll find that those who are deserving of your time and energies will appear and those who drain you will disappear…a simple act of the Universe doing it’s job.
Overall, life is a blessing and the only way to enjoy it is to enjoy it for yourself. Your happiness and energy will radiate outward and infect others as their happiness and energy will do the same to you.
Wishing you much continued happiness and success!
EmbracingMyJourney L.L.C. was created by Caryn FitzGerald in 2008.
Caryn, known as "The Manifesting Queen" is a motivational columnist, speaker and writer, she has been featured in and published several books, including "Tulips In The Sand" "Fish Sticks, Books and Blue Jeans" “Manifest Success” “Visual Arts Junction Interviews” & “Online Marketing Success Stories..."
Caryn is a domestic violence survivor who has triumphed over a 10-year battle with anorexia and bulimia. She is a wife, mother, healthy-aging-specialist, writer, speaker, blogger, coach and a health food enthusiast Click to connect with Caryn at her website
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